Totally agree with you, I hate to say it, but it's often teens who abuse alcohol and give it a bad name!

RC: It's cold - where'd summer go? :(

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Yeah, I'm really cold here tonight :(

RC: I keep typing "wed" instead of "wd" on iSketch when someone wins. I'm not sure how it happens, it just does! I've been doing it for as long as I can remember. My finger just keeps hitting the e after I press w. :/ It doesn't happen all the time. Just too many times for my liking, lol.

So when I say "wed so and so! :)" I sound like a hussy who wants to wed everyone! I only want Mr Hunky Nerdy. Honest!

RC: where's everybody today/yesterday [friday]???????

forum seems kinda cold...

*ICHI shivers.

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RC: Dangerous drivers! Look before you move!

I've never really witnessed an accident before, but while we were in the car, some crazy woman comes out of one of the side roads (on a two way road), and a motorbike almost hit her because she didn't look the other way. The motorcyclist turned quickly to avoid getting hit, but I think he did a bit, (it was very hard to catch it in my angle), he did a hard turn and found himself flying off his motorbike and literally bouncing (not rolling) in the middle of the road, while the motorbike went straight into another car. Seeing him bounce around like that, over and over again was just too much though. I thought he was about to bounce straight into another car in the opposite direction. Thankfully the car saw him and stopped, otherwise I'm pretty sure that would have ended beyond terrible.

And then he got up. He was able to walk, etc. Thank God for that. That was definitely a miracle if you saw how much he was rolling/bouncing after he went flying off the bike. :| I'm just glad he's okay. I don't think I'll be able to get that out of my head. That's definitely a reminder for all car drivers, pedestrians, bike riders, etc to always watch the road before you make a move.

RC: ARGHASHSKSBKJABKAGGGAAA!!!!

Yes i feel like that.

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RC: wall-shaking thunder.
RC2: Camping trip... from now to Monday. Then school starts on Tuesday. Normally I'd be okay with camping... I'd even be okay with the seven hour drive. Except for the fact that we're going with another family... a chinese one, too. Which means my parents will be hyper-aware of whether I'm being "respectful" or not. And my sister isn't going, and she'd probably be the one thing that'd keep me sane... the other family has a 10 year old daughter... gah. And we're all going in the same car. Gahhhhh.

Anyways, by the time most of you read this, I'll probably be gone, sleeping (unless I'm watching the meteor shower), or too busy to check. So byebye.

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Hehe. I'm actually not completely sure. I do know that she's either 8, 9 or 10. She's actually not too horrible... pretty quiet.

RC: Woke up at 5:30am to see the meteor shower probably visible only to N. America... there was a thunderstorm last night, and it was too cloudy to see anything, not even the moon. :( Can't get back to bed, which is why I'm on here right now.

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RC: Work :(
#2 Courses start in 4 days

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RC: Doing something, I've never ever ever done before.



I put my wallet through the wash - (Ha! you thought it was going to be something )




Amongst other things:
I've heard of the Pink Pound, but I now have the Dark Blue £10 notes!

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RC: Mr Hunky's parents are refusing to come to our wedding. I've never actually met them before because they've been trying to avoid meeting me. Go figure. But it's because he's white and I'm Asian, and they still haven't grasped onto the idea that it's not a big deeeeal! Gosh, how hard can it be?

They say they're happy for him, and have no problems because he is happy and they're glad that he's the happiest he's ever been, but then.. pfft.. they haven't quiet accepted me. So it's hard on him too. I invited them over... to meet them. The outcome? Nothing. It would be nice to actually meet my future in-laws. *sigh*. It makes me sad because I see how nice my parents are with Mr Hunky. They absolutely adore him. He's very lucky that my parents rock (baised opinion) and treat him really, really well. They treat him like family :) He's great with my parents too.

I'm a huge 'family, family' sort of person. I wanted the same opportunity with his parents. Get to know them, etc. I think they'll probably end up accepting it more after we marry. And then they'll probably only start wanting to meet me after I produce beautiful mixed raced grandkids for them...


So yeah...
RC2: People who think about skin colour waaaay too much! We're all the same, for goodness sake!

OMG thats awful. Indeed we all are the same, we all have red blood and we all are human.

Are you certain it's because it's a mixed raced wedding ?

A few years ago, my best friends brother (David ) met a girl (Emma) on holiday, after the holiday they met up a few times, then out of the blue David announced they were getting married, ( they were both of the same race, so this wasn't the issue)
However Davids parents weren't happy at all, the reasons were because they hadn't even met his girl, yet their son was going to marry her, also Davids father was concerned, as David had only known the girl 4 months and David dad thought it wasn't in character of his son to propose to a girl without the family meeting her first. Davids mother also felt put out, as all the wedding plans had been made by David's girlfriend and her parents ( eg. church, hotel, cake,wedding cars etc etc). In the end David and Emma delayed the wedding until the following summer by this time all the families had met, thus also showing everyone that one year on that David and Emma were really in love with each other. ( They have now been married 4 years and have a beautiful Daughter).

With my own wedding, I had known my in laws for 3 years by the time we got married, so on our wedding day, my in laws weren't losing a son, infact they weren't even gaining a daughter, because by this time they had already accepted me into their family, and I was already a daughter to them.
I know you are both adults and can make your own choices, but as a mother of 3 son's if any of my sons ( in years to come) told me they were getting married and they hadn't known their wife to be very long or I hadn't met her, being totally honest as a mother, I think I would be concerned/upset to, ( no matter how happy my son was).
I know you have invited your in laws to be over and they didn't accept perhaps it's just that they might be in shock by the speed of the wedding, rather than it being a race problem.
Just my views...

RC people who can't accept others for their skin/hair/eye/ football shirt colour..

LOL @ football shirt colour, jewels you are aptly named....

RC: Hard-drive dying - yet to see if data is recoverable

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Awwwww, jewels, I still love ya, even with your Spurs Shirt

RC: Not getting enough sleep due to noisy neighbours banging about from 6am

Of course. I wouldn't have complained about it if I didn't know that was the reason.

I hear where you're coming from in your examples, but in this situation.. nope. It's been a race thing since the beginning. In terms of having a say in the wedding, in our religion we have two "wedding celebrations". The first (being the wedding day) is organised by the women's side. And the second, being the post-marriage celebration (which tends to be just as big as the wedding day itself) is organised by the man's side. So Mr Hunky is taking care of all the second day venue, food, expenses, etc. His parents can be part of it if they want to.

Anyway, my point is that it has nothing to do with anything else. He predicted this would happen because he knows his parents. Even the first time he met me, he said this would be an issue for his parents - because I'm Asian. We laughed about it. They're in an area of England that is full of white people and white people only. They've lived there all their lives, and haven't really "mixed" with other races properly. Not only that, but being their son, they always thought he'd marry a white girl, blah, blah.

They are actually very genuinely happy for him, because they've seen how happy is he on the inside and outside. They just haven't come to terms with the rest, lol. Tough luck, they'd better get used to it because I'm not going to be painting my face white. Too much effort. :P

I hear where you're coming from in your views, jewels. But, I truly wouldn't have stated my disappointment without knowing first as to why. I know this is the reason because they've admitted it. I guess the good thing is that I get on really, really well with his sister though. She rocks! :) I do love her. So at least I know some of his family. But I know it's hard for him not having his parents there on the wedding day, especially since they are close. They've never hated each other. They're not the sort to disown him because he's marrying an Asian, but at the same time, they haven't come to terms with it yet.

RC: My bedroom is an absolute tip... So is the study room, for that matter, lol. /hides from AJ. *sigh* I'm finally getting rid of those all school books that I didn't want to part with XD

Whoa, long post.

Nope.. heh. I'm still going to be there :P It's not like we threw it in their face in the last possible moment that I'm Asian and he's getting married. They've known about this. They just haven't gone out of their way to even want to meet me. They've been putting it off for ages. I know people think it could be a shocking piece of news, that's why they're not coming, but that's really not the case. Mr Hunky knew they were going to be like this from the moment he met me. They are 60 year olds living in a small town of just white people. They're just not used to people of a different race. I guess I have to be forgiving of their ignorance. If they tried, I know they'd like me, and it wouldn't be such a big deal to them after. It's just a matter of getting them to that level.

Meh, their loss. I think I'm quite a nice person Humble too? LOL!!
At least his sister loves me and is coming to the wedding :D We get on well. And some of his extended family are coming :) (who don't live where his parents live). His parents are probably going to regret this later. Ah well.

RC: It's cooooool! Cold, cold, cold! :|

RC racism -all sorts

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I'm sorry to hear that, Nerdy, I know you felt it might turn out that way. It's bound to cast a bit of a shadow over your wedding plans ... but I hope it doesn't cast a shadow over the wedding and I know you won't let it affect your marriage. As you say, they may come round after the wedding, it will be a done deal then and they may decide they have to get to know you because otherwise they'll stop knowing their son - or they may wait until grandchildren come along. Or, to be pessimistic, they may not change their views at all. The only thing you can do is make a success of your marriage and be happy you have a husband who has always been honest with you about how his parents would feel.

You can't force Mr Hunky's parents to meet you, and until they do, they won't change their minds about anything. All you can do is have a happy married life; if their daughter sees how happy her brother is and reports back to her parents, then they may begin to feel as though they're missing something.

You've always been very realistic and practical about all this, it's all you can be. As you said, they are ignorant - it will take time to make them less so.

*hugs Nerdy*

RC: Prejudice - of all kinds.

Thanks for your support and advice, and that goes to everyone who has emailed, PM'd, posted, etc.

Like Mr Hunky, I still feel the happiest I've ever been in my life, and if his parents don't want to be part of that, then they're missing out. It would have been nice to have them accept me stragiht away because they will be part of my family, but I'm not willing to let this ruin anything :)


You know it :P

Umm... RC.. errr..

"Mr Hunky, the christmas poo..."

Some people make me wonder sometimes...

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RC: study is a tip and I need to start revising but can't work in mess, thanks a lot dork.


Eww, that's my furture brother-in-law you're talking about mate, I can't call him that

Not really a complaint, it's a sadness, but my friend's dad passed away this morning. She's nice and everything but we've never been close and now I just feel really guilty about stuff. My sister (older than nerdy) and her sister were best friends since the age of 11, it's a shame we weren't that close. But we're gonna try and go visit them tomorrow, I just hope I can be supportive enough like she was when my Grandfather passed away.

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/hugs AJ...

RC: i need a busyyyyyyyyy scheduleeeeeeeeeeee. =/

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At least you get a break Tasha. Turns out I won't have even finished my first year, yet I'll be starting my second year :o
Exam for first year stuff is on the 19th of October and my new course starts on the 29th or September. I must be mad. I was whining about wanting/needing a break. Stuff it now, I'm too excited!

RC: That ^ should be a bad thing, but I'm happy instead. I think I'm a bit broken

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RC: im bored

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RC: Last day to have a long lie in, yet I'm up at crack of dawn :s

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