Im not sure if this is the right place to put this item but Im sure the crew can move it if need be!

I am pregnant! But.....its a surrogate pregnancy for another couple. I am due in mid December. Its a girl. Her parents are very involved and have been incredibly supportive of me and my family while I carry their little girl for them. She is very healthy and kicking me all the time! I feel blessed that i have been able to give this gift to another family who want a child so badly! All is going well and if i have seemed even more wierd than usual recently its because my hormones are raging. :biggrin:

acting weird? - i never noticed anything unusual there! jk :biggrin:

BunE, what you're doing is a wonderful thing, thank you for being open about it. Noone has the right to judge you and you deserve and have my love and support.

/me hugs bunE, the baby girl and her lucky new parents xxx

People can discuss the topic of surrogacy but don't anyone of you dare try and make bunE doubt herself, this is a huuuge event, with massive implications to her life and she obviously hasn't undertaken it lightly and has gone through a lot of soul-searching.

I would like to ask a few questions though -

!. How many bunnies expected in the litter - will it get as high as 10?
2.How many times can i cough *hormones* on MSN before you rip my head off?

Congratulations on your news, it will be a difficult time but you have my support x

Oh wow bunE, im so so happy for the couple and yourself.
What a miricle you have created i take my hat off to you babe, absolutly wonderfull thing to do for someone else.
How unselfish of you to consider doing this, do you know the couple well???.
I hope you have a big bouncy baby girl, well not to big, and i wish nall parties concerned every happiness.
Cherry cuddles bunE and the bump.

/me glares at Kisskiss :twisted:
Thankyou hun xx
(the litter better just be 1!)

@Cherry I didnt know the parents well but I have got to know them very well since!

I really do admire you bunE, and i agree with kissy if anyone deems it fit to say anything negative about this i will also be really angry.
People suffer greatly with not being able to concieve, luckily i could get pregnant if mr cherry even looked at me, but no so for many people out there.
You are a very brave kind lady who deserves a medal in my book.

OMG bunE, that is one of the most selfless acts of kindness that anyone can do, and i think you are one incredible woman for even considering it.

/me hugs bunE and bumpE

I've always thought we need to make a difference whilst we are here - whether that be to the world, to our country, our community, or even just to one other person - if we can make a difference to someone, then we've done something worthwhile. Well, honey, you are making a HUUUUUGE difference to this couple.

I take my hat off to you and wish you, bumpE and bumpE's parents all the best.

Oodles and oodles of love
Saff

May you find serenity and tranquility in
a world you may not always understand.May the pain you have known and the conflict you
have experienced give you the strength to walk through life
facing each new situation with courage and optimism.
Always know that there are those whose
love and understanding will always be there,
even when you feel most alone.

May you discover enough goodness in others
to believe in a world of peace.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch,
a warm smile be yours every day of your life,
and may you give these gifts as well as receive them.
Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.
Teach love to those who know hate, and let that love
embrace you as you go into the world.

May the teaching of those you admire become part
of you, so that you may call upon them.
Remember, those whose lives you have touched
and who have touched yours are
always a part of you, even if the encounters
were less than you would have wished.
It is the content of the encounter that is
more important than it's form.

May you not become too concerned with
material matters, but instead place immeasurable
value on the goodness in your heart.
Find time in each day to see the beauty
and love in the world around you.
Realize that each person has limitless abilities,
but each of us is different in our own way.

What you may feel you lack in one regard
may be more than compensated for in another.
What you feel you lack in the present
may become one of your strengths in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with
promise and possibility. Learn to view
everything as a worth while experience.

May you find enough inner strength to
determine your own worth by yourself,
and not be dependent on another's
judgments of your accomplishments.
" May you always feel loved "


BunE you're amazing! You are doing an incredible thing and I'm in awe of you!
I think it says a lot about the kind of wonderful person you are that you're willing to do this. Count on my full support. :biggrin:



I also agree that negativity has no place here. This should be a place of support for someone doing something so selfless.

What an amazing thing to do BunE! How brave and kind you are. I'm sure you are giving them one of the best gifts they will ever recieve in life. :razz: Congrats to the new parents aswell!

Awwww bunE, that is incredibly cute and very sweet of you! You're brave for doing this and I hope it all goes well for you. I'm shocked but in a nice way because it's such a lovely thing to do. What everyone else has said is absolutely true about it being selfless, kind and brave, I couldn't agree more.
Noone has the right to judge you and you deserve and have my love and support.

People can discuss the topic of surrogacy but don't anyone of you dare try and make bunE doubt herself, this is a huuuge event, with massive implications to her life and she obviously hasn't undertaken it lightly and has gone through a lot of soul-searching.
If anyone was to judge her they'd be incredibly insane and out of their bloody mind and should run from this thread super fast!! I think this is fantastic, the best news I've heard all week!

So, on the topic of surrogacy, what made you do it bunE?
And what were the sort of things you had to consider?
If there's anything personal/private or something you do not wish to discuss, please don't feel obliged to reply, I'd understand :) x

/me jumps up and down with excitement and hugs bunE and the bump :razz:
/me giggles at Saph calling the bump bumpE, cuuute! :D

Many thank yous from the bottom of my heart for all the good wishes and supportive words xxx


So, on the topic of surrogacy, what made you do it bunE?
And what were the sort of things you had to consider?
If there's anything personal/private or something you do not wish to discuss, please don't feel obliged to reply, I'd understand :) x



I decided to do it beacuse a friend of a friend told me that they were looking for a surrogate. I had to think long and hard but as the egg isnt even mine she doesnt even feel like my child. I had to talk with my partner and all my kids to make sure they were ok with it and there was lots of legalise stuff to do. But in the end I decided it was the right thing for me to do.

That's great that you have your partner and your kids supporting you. Usually kids wouldn't understand this sorta stuff, but you can tell yours must be just as giving like you are to have agreed to it :)

Just out of interest, what sort of things do you have to legalise?
Also, excuse my ignorance here, cos I really don't know how the system works, but later on as this little girl grows up, are you expected to have anything to do with her life?
If not, I assume that's the choice of the parents, so they can choose to fill you in on little events.

Sorry if that sounds dumb =/
I'm just curious cos it's interesting

Congratulations - that's fantastic news! As everyone else has already said, you're doing a fantastic thing for your friend - and it's such a selfless thing to do.

Congratulations - hope everything goes well.

/me LOLs at the clever use of "BumpE"

I liked BumpE too :P You should suggest it to them as a name, lol

What you are doing goes beyond a gift. I don't really know what else to say.

Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy - you're a very special woman.

Nice one, me ickle fluffy one, so proud of you bunEE and the wee ickle bunEE that you are carrying. You, well you are the most caring person I know, and to do something as brave as this, and give another couple a chance at happiness well it goes without saying you are totally amazing.


Many congratz, and hope things run so smootly for you hun

* big hugs and kisses *

I'm absolutely thunderstruck. What a wonderful and brave thing to do for a friend! This baby is so lucky to be born into the world full of love and support from not just one, but two families. Congratulations:razz:

Noone has the right to judge you and you deserve and have my love and support.

People can discuss the topic of surrogacy but don't anyone of you dare try and make bunE doubt herself
I would like to ask a few questions though -


and i agree with kissy if anyone deems it fit to say anything negative about this i will also be really angry.



I also agree that negativity has no place here. This should be a place of support for someone doing something so selfless.



If anyone was to judge her they'd be incredibly insane and out of their bloody mind and should run from this thread super fast!! I think this is fantastic, the best news I've heard all week!



I haven't seen any negativity in this thread...

So, I thought I'd try and think of something negative to not post, but I can't think of anything. All these warnings to people seem to detract from the positivity of the thread to me? meh... I'm weird.

Anyhoo... congrats BunE :biggrin:

That's great that you have your partner and your kids supporting you. Usually kids wouldn't understand this sorta stuff, but you can tell yours must be just as giving like you are to have agreed to it :)

Just out of interest, what sort of things do you have to legalise?
Also, excuse my ignorance here, cos I really don't know how the system works, but later on as this little girl grows up, are you expected to have anything to do with her life?
If not, I assume that's the choice of the parents, so they can choose to fill you in on little events.

Sorry if that sounds dumb =/
I'm just curious cos it's interesting
Hun
You have to have a legal doc saying that you have no rights to the child once it is born, that you will hand her over to her parents immeditely etc. That you agree to her "adoption" because legally she comes from my body therefore in legal world I am her mother(even though I dont feel that way). Her name will be registred by them with me. Yes it is the choice of her parents as to whether I have anything to do with her, but to be honest i dont need or want to. She is not my daughter she is theirs. I think they have decided to tell her later in life that she came from my womb but I dont know that for sure.

To Ches -No there has been no negativity here but in life I have already encountered some. Some mums at school have been very funny about me giving her up, and 1 has stopped speaking to me altogether!
I think my friends were just being protective of me on here in case anybody said anything negative.
BTW I love the name bumpE!!!!

Thanks for the info bunE :)
Some mums at school have been very funny about me giving her up, and 1 has stopped speaking to me altogether!

Why should they be funny about it, like you said it's not your own child unless it's your eggs being used. But it's not... is it? *confused*

As for that one mother you can stick a thumb out at her and turn it downwards, then say 'I'm not your friend anymore' :biggrin: but that could just be my 4 year old nieces who do that :rolleyes: hehe

With friends like those, geez you don't need any enemies hun. They were never much of a friend to begin with. Either that, or they are just envious as they COULD never do what you are doing, as all they think about is THEMSELVES ... just stick 2 fingers up to them all hun, and hold your head high


/me huggles bunEE again

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww /me thinks bunE is a wondermaful role model for everyone else out there :)

/me wonders if bumpE will poke back if poked? xD

I loves you bunE =D and wish you all the bestest in the rest of the pregnancy =)

congrats bunE, like the others have said it's a very selfless thing for you too do. however are you sure your not just doing it to get those fabulous pregant women boobs that all expecting mothers get :biggrin:?

i wish you all the best and hope everthing goes well.

but if i can ask would you do it again? for another couple in the same situation?(i hope that came out right)