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Well we are about to lose Nerd to that great institution of matrimony so instead of a pressie, I thought we should share our pearls of wisdom about marriage with her. We can't let the poor girl go thinking it's all about pretty dresses and wedding invites can we?

So any advice on how to keep your man happy would be worth more than a pressie I'm sure.

My pressie/advice is -

Always make sure he has a clean pair of socks for the next day.
Always half the cost of anything you buy.
Practise saying "This old thing? I've had it ages" until you can pull it off convincingly.

Good luck

Oh good idea kisskiss.
Ok nerdy hun listen up, for when the thrill wears off you will need the good advice of us old married hags lol.
Limit your headaches to once a week lol.
Make sure he knows how to work the kitchen appliances.
Make sure he cooks at least once a week, while you go for a hot soak and a pamper.
Everything he has is yours, and everything you have is also yours lol.
And LASTLY well untill i think of a few more,never allow him to slate the mother in law, its a no nooooo.

Okay here's my "pearls"
Never tell him your problems cos he will want to fix them ( a man thing I think) save them for your RCs!

Always make sure he knows from the offset you are a VERY deep sleeper. So when the lil nerdys come along you wont hear them cry and he willl have to get up in the middle of the night!

many more to share with you but will wait a while
x

Lol! Thank you, kisskiss. lol, some of these are hilarious. Oh God, now I'm overwhelmed ;)

I just met sister-in-law to be, and she was all telling me I must make plenty of babies because she wants lots of nephews and nieces, hehe. MrNerdy and I have agreed on a football team of kids, rofl.

I don't think I could lie to a partner.. in all honesty, I make a terrible liar (which I'm glad about). I can't even lie to AJ! I have a huge grin on my face when I even attempt to, lol. I've had people lie to me in the past and it's left me terribly annoyed sometimes :eek: And pretending to be in deep sleep? Knowing me, I'd crack up laughing. Heh.

Nice advice, Red. I think the monthly anniversary is terribly cute. I'm very much like that. :embarrassed: I've already taken note of the day I met him and the progress of things, and the day he proposed. And because I have a bad memory (I'm blaming it on the epilepsy, shuu ;)), I've written it all down. Dorky, I know. :P

I know people say the love dies down after a while.. but not always. I'm following good examples in front of me, from my parents (who simply can't live without each other, yuk ;)) and my sisters. I've seen how they all put in 100% effort. It's a good learning curve to take mental note of how things are done, in that sense, I'm blessed to be one of the young ones in a huge family to soak in all that wisdom :) Most importantly, I'll try to be myself :D (that's probably discomforting for everyone now, haha!)

Cheers, guys :)

Its pleasing to hear that you have a stable family that you have learnt from, i think that will hold your married life in good stead.
All you can do is like you already said always be honest, thats very important, always keep laughter in your lives no matter what also never let your children rule your life, always find time for each other.
Big red that was a very true factor hun well said, you must have quality adult time or you will go crazy.
Trying to be a good wife is not the way to go, as your already the best you can be your you.
Mr nerdy has found qualitys in you that he loves, thats why he asked you to be his wife, so you dont need to prove anything, your already his queen.
Married life dosent have to be a battle, as you have seen from your parents, so go along with it enjoy it and create many happy memories to pass on to your own kids.
Good luck in life nerdy.
But on the reverse side of the life coin, if it all does fall out of bed, and becomes a spilt, remember to feather your nest have your own bank account and save save save, to many women have been left penniless in spilts dont be one of them.

You guys put tears in my eyes! (Of laughter and cuteness)

I don't know much about being married, but I guess it's not too much different to living together. The one piece of advice I can give you is that if you do row (and you will from time to time, it's only healthy) never go to sleep until it's been sorted. Don't go to sleep angry with each other - I did it last night and I woke up at 2 and couldn't sleep again until 5. I haven't really got any yet, but I am guessing that's how people get wrinkles.:eek:

Cherry, what you said about not having to proove yourself cause you're already his queen really opened my eyes, thanks.

Big_Red, if you guys ever break up, will you marry me? lol you're so clued up!

MrNerdy and I have agreed on a football team of kids, rofl.
/me crosses her legs and winces


I don't think I could lie to a partner..
Please don't think of it as lying, we have to protect men from the seamier side of life. I mean you wouldnt pluck your eyebrows or shave your legs in front of him would you?

Thanks guys!

Please don't think of it as lying, we have to protect men from the seamier side of life. I mean you wouldnt pluck your eyebrows or shave your legs in front of him would you?

To me, at least he knows I do those things. So it's not really hiding anything from him or deceiving him. It's just me doing it in my own space. We all do things in our own space. I know what you mean, perhaps some of the examples above shouldn't really be considered as lying, but.. they're not things I'd do either. No biggie. We're all different :)

I've already taken note of the day I met him and the progress of things, and the day he proposed.

That's because they all happened last week, isn't it? :razz:

hehe... just joshing, but you ain't half a fast mover!

Contratumalayshuns :)

As for a present, I can't really think of any advice to give to a girl, but if MrNerdy needs advice on keeping out of trouble... well, with my track record I can't really help there either to be honest... Um... I'll just get you a toaster. :smile:

That's because they all happened last week, isn't it? :razz:

hehe... just joshing, but you ain't half a fast mover!

Contratumalayshuns :)

As for a present, I can't really think of any advice to give to a girl, but if MrNerdy needs advice on keeping out of trouble... well, with my track record I can't really help there either to be honest... Um... I'll just get you a toaster. :smile:
Will that be a top class toaster ches with all mod cons, or a cheap and nasty white 2 slice one from argos:rolleyes:.
If you go the argos route ill have to rename you tight arse kilty instead.
Na only peeing with ya as you know, a toaster will come in handy for a quick meal of beans on toast while nerdy runs round her brood of kids, bless her.:rolleyes:

Ok, I've been thinking about this one long and hard (get your mind out of the gutter if you think that sounds questionable!). Here's my words of wisdom.

Firstly, arrange a pre-nup. Alot of blood, sweat and tears can be saved from day one if you sit down and tell eachother what is expected. No, it's not demanding, it doesn't have to be negative. Everyone has expectations of things and it's best to air it out before you start living under the same roof. As you all know, I got married quickly and it's great but you really need to discuss these things before. Things like, what you would like each other to do around the house or if you love fresh flowers ask that he fufills your wishes to have some. Things like that but it's important to get things out in the open.

Which brings me to my second point. Dicuss everything! Never go into a marraige without bringing thoughts into the open. They will only fester and grow out of all proportion. But don't let the man know every single crazy woman thought. Men think we're crazy sometimes but we can prove them wrong by keeping all the crazy stuff in your head. Men never understand why you cry because you have an ingrown hair or why you spend an hour studying pores in the mirror.

Thirdly, finances have already been mentioned and I agree that there should be at least 3 current accounts. One joint, for utilities and two single. You do need some privacy and having your own account with money in it especially for you does wonders.

For number four, I must admit, I disagree with the 'never go to bed on an argument' advice. You'll know what's best for you both. It depends entirely on your personalities. For instance, MrFacey and me are both hot-heads at times and he can hold a grudge when he doesn't want to and can't get out of it. So walking away, giving it a few hours or sleeping on it, clears the air for us and things start afresh. We had a horrendus first year so we're experts at dealing with arguments!

Which brings me to a very important point. No-one ever told me that the first year would be so hard! And it is. You're both learning to live with eachother and that comes with so many extra things that it is difficult to deal with. Don't let yourself be bullied into anything either, he may be your husband but you're still you and your opinion counts! I'm not putting a damper on things, marraige is great but I think it's important that people are made aware of it. You wouldn't like to go into labour and for someone to tell you that it's not going to hurt, would you?

Lastly, always do something for yourself. It can be very difficult having to give all the time and you still need time to yourself to keep your own identity. I lost mine so much that I was talking about going back to my maiden name. It's so easy to forget who you are as an individual and you need time to yourself to do the things you enjoyed doing before you were married.

Ooo that was a long post :biggrin:
xxxx

Oh and I just read you bit about 'love dies down' It doesn't die down, it grows, the urgency and the sudden overwhelm dies down but you will still love him more each day :)

Don't, ever, put 'problems' to one side, in the hope they will go away or believe that they don't matter.

They won't, and not dealing with them, makes them worse.

:eek:

Which brings me to my second point. Dicuss everything! Never go into a marraige without bringing thoughts into the open. They will only fester and grow out of all proportion. But don't let the man know every single crazy woman thought. Men think we're crazy sometimes but we can prove them wrong by keeping all the crazy stuff in your head.

Haha. I live alone with my mum these days and I have a comment based on this :razz:. From a male perspective.

It's important to discuss things, yes, but make sure you are also actually open to discussing the matter. So not:
"Hey, do you think X or Y is better?",
"Oh, I think X would be best",
"What? No! This is totally not possible 'cos we haven't got this and that and it'll never work out!",
"Well... Then why did you ask?"

Just phrase it as "Hey, shall we do Y, because X has these disadvantages and I don't think it'd be a good idea?" to save some frustrations.

Or become angry when both opinions aren't similar right from the start and storm off in frustration.

Also: No comment doesn't mean that it went unnoticed. And not everything requires a thorough description or plan of action; some things are quite clear already. Leave out the details; you're not planning to rob a bank.

Maybe this is just my mum, but she expects me to jump up and do everything that I'm supposed to do immediately and relax afterwards. No. The point is that it gets done before the deadline :biggrin:

Good luck M(r)s N. !

Tip for men: When women say 'this or this?' we've already made our decision but are asking to give you men some choice. It only goes tits-up when you pick the wrong answer!

That was clear :D
But why the hell do you still bother? It only creates trouble.

(so come on then, spill the beans who is he? :biggrin:)

Lol, everyone keeps asking me this and I don't know how to answer. How do you answer that about a person that no one knows? Just to clear it up.. he's not an iSketcher, which some people thought he was, lol. I'm going to hide him from iSketch, for his own sanity :P

Lol, everyone keeps asking me this and I don't know how to answer. How do you answer that about a person that no one knows? Just to clear it up.. he's not an iSketcher, which some people thought he was, lol. I'm going to hide him from iSketch, for his own sanity :P
So for his own sanity, should I hide him from you too?
/me skips away, faaaaar away from nerdy's kicking legs!

Oi! I know where you live, watch it! :twisted: (How did I not see that coming?!)

/me kicks AJ. Hard.
I feel sorry for him having you as a sister-in-law to be. :P

/me runs off far, far away...

Getting married is so exciting, and I know you'll want to do things to make him happy and proud of you, but keep one thing in mind: Don't start doing anything for him that you're not prepared to do for the rest of your lives together. Don't start waiting on him, or ironing his underwear, or anything silly like that, ya' hear?

Pfft.. he's ironing his own underwear :P LOL

He's well house trained because he's had to get by a lot by himself, which is a good thing.. cooks, cleans, irons.. Might just get him to iron all my stuff ;P I tease, I tease.